Anger management techniques
by Lynn WL
Do you have an anger management issue? Well, maybe a better question to ask first would be, do you ever get angry? You would likely be lying if you answered no. Anger is a completely normal, healthy human emotion, and a certain amount of it is necessary for our survival. Its a defense mechanism we use when we're attacked so that we can fight and protect ourselves.
But like most other things, some people tend to overdo it, and it becomes problematic. When anger gets out of control it becomes destructive and can lead to problems at work or school, in your personal relationships, and above all, it affects the overall quality of your life and of the people around you - those that you actually care about the most. This is when you know you have an anger management issue.
How do you feel when your mad or upset? Certainly not positive. Can you imagine being angry everyday, or perhaps even multiple times a day? Before you know it, your anger will turn into hatred.
So you would hate the people around you or worse, people in general; you would hate the weather, the economy, the government, etc. and maybe even yourself! In other words, you are angry at the world, and you have a negative attitude towards life.
That's definitely not the kind of life you want to live. Besides emotional issues, anger can also cause physical and health issues like increased heart rate, blood pressure, and certain hormones like adrenaline which in turn can lead to other health problems. If this is you, then you definitely can benefit from anger management techniques. So here's some of the techniques you can learn and do yourself.
1. Walk away
Walk away from the situation, the people, and the place. So leave the room and go somewhere else just to distract yourself. Its best if you can go outside and be in nature. That will help calm your mind. Walk in the park, look at the trees, listen to the bird chirp. This will really benefit you.
2. Learn relaxation techniques
Take deep breaths on a regular basis, and meditate everyday. This will train your mind to be calm, and you will react calmly when a stressful situation arises that would normally cause you to be angry. When you do get angry, you can quickly calm yourself by taking deep breaths right at that moment.
3. Learn to be happier and have a positive outlook on life
Happy and optimistic people don't get angry easily. It doesn't mean they never do, though. But when they do, they are able to diffuse it quickly before the anger gets out of control. There are articles on this blog you can read to learn how to become happier.
4. Focus on the positive
First, have a positive image of yourself. Tell yourself you are a wonderful person who is confident, patient, kind, and slow to anger. Also look for the positive in other people and situations. Believe that everyone around you is trying to do their best with what they have. No one is perfect, so when they fail you can quickly forgive them. Look for the good things in every situation. So instead of getting angry, maybe you can ask yourself, "what can I learn from this situation?"
5. Remind yourself that when you get angry you lose
When you get into an argument (which you should avoid in the first place, but that's another topic for another day) and you get angry, you lose whether you like it or not. When someone cuts you off while driving and you get angry, you lose (the other person doesn't give a fck or even know that your mad at them). Some people even smash or throw things around when their angry. Who loses? I think you get the picture.
6. Be awesome
Yes, that's right. You are indeed awesome! So When you wake up every morning ask yourself, "how can I be awesome today?" and "what can I do to make other people feel better, and this world a better place?" This ties in nicely with the previous technique of having a positive attitude.
My dad once told me something when I was little, and it has always stuck with me: "Don't ever let anyone or anything take away your sweetness."
When you master these anger management techniques, you will be surprised at how hard it is for you to get angry.
Some people can also benefit from professional anger management help, and you shouldn't hesitate to seek help if you need it. Just do an online search for counseling or classes where you can learn more anger management techniques that will help you live a happier and healthier life.
From paradise Hawaii this is Sharleen (a.k.a. Lynn) reminding you that life is magical. So...
Aloha, and let's make it a magical day!
Do you have an anger management issue? Well, maybe a better question to ask first would be, do you ever get angry? You would likely be lying if you answered no. Anger is a completely normal, healthy human emotion, and a certain amount of it is necessary for our survival. Its a defense mechanism we use when we're attacked so that we can fight and protect ourselves.
How do you feel when your mad or upset? Certainly not positive. Can you imagine being angry everyday, or perhaps even multiple times a day? Before you know it, your anger will turn into hatred.
So you would hate the people around you or worse, people in general; you would hate the weather, the economy, the government, etc. and maybe even yourself! In other words, you are angry at the world, and you have a negative attitude towards life.
That's definitely not the kind of life you want to live. Besides emotional issues, anger can also cause physical and health issues like increased heart rate, blood pressure, and certain hormones like adrenaline which in turn can lead to other health problems. If this is you, then you definitely can benefit from anger management techniques. So here's some of the techniques you can learn and do yourself.
1. Walk away
Walk away from the situation, the people, and the place. So leave the room and go somewhere else just to distract yourself. Its best if you can go outside and be in nature. That will help calm your mind. Walk in the park, look at the trees, listen to the bird chirp. This will really benefit you.
2. Learn relaxation techniques
Take deep breaths on a regular basis, and meditate everyday. This will train your mind to be calm, and you will react calmly when a stressful situation arises that would normally cause you to be angry. When you do get angry, you can quickly calm yourself by taking deep breaths right at that moment.
3. Learn to be happier and have a positive outlook on life
Happy and optimistic people don't get angry easily. It doesn't mean they never do, though. But when they do, they are able to diffuse it quickly before the anger gets out of control. There are articles on this blog you can read to learn how to become happier.
4. Focus on the positive
First, have a positive image of yourself. Tell yourself you are a wonderful person who is confident, patient, kind, and slow to anger. Also look for the positive in other people and situations. Believe that everyone around you is trying to do their best with what they have. No one is perfect, so when they fail you can quickly forgive them. Look for the good things in every situation. So instead of getting angry, maybe you can ask yourself, "what can I learn from this situation?"
5. Remind yourself that when you get angry you lose
When you get into an argument (which you should avoid in the first place, but that's another topic for another day) and you get angry, you lose whether you like it or not. When someone cuts you off while driving and you get angry, you lose (the other person doesn't give a fck or even know that your mad at them). Some people even smash or throw things around when their angry. Who loses? I think you get the picture.
6. Be awesome
Yes, that's right. You are indeed awesome! So When you wake up every morning ask yourself, "how can I be awesome today?" and "what can I do to make other people feel better, and this world a better place?" This ties in nicely with the previous technique of having a positive attitude.
My dad once told me something when I was little, and it has always stuck with me: "Don't ever let anyone or anything take away your sweetness."
When you master these anger management techniques, you will be surprised at how hard it is for you to get angry.
Some people can also benefit from professional anger management help, and you shouldn't hesitate to seek help if you need it. Just do an online search for counseling or classes where you can learn more anger management techniques that will help you live a happier and healthier life.
From paradise Hawaii this is Sharleen (a.k.a. Lynn) reminding you that life is magical. So...
Aloha, and let's make it a magical day!
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